Relationship Advice: 5 Reasons Married Sex Is A Thousand Times Better Than Single Sex

Most people say sex gets boring when couples tie the knot but relationship expert, William Weil of YourTango says that getting married is not a guaranteed death sentence to passion.

According to Weil, the secret to staying in love and keeping sexual connection hot is understanding how to keep intimacy alive despite the years.

Weil lists five reasons that sex in marriage truly rocks!

1. You Can Relax — And Sex Is So Much Better When You Do: In dating, there's pressure to get it right. What if one person has an orgasm and the other doesn't? Did you do it "right"? When you're with a true partner, you gain enormous space for exploring and trying new things. Whatever happens, it's all beautiful and loving. And because you're relaxed, you enjoy yourself the entire time.
    
2.  Your Buttons Get Pushed: With a partner that doesn't know you, frustration about not having your key arousal spots stroked is likely. Everyone is so different. I've been with women who love having their nipples teased, and others that can't stand it. It's the same with men. It's a minefield out there! Moreover, when you have experience with each other, you learn the sure-fire techniques you know will blow your partner's mind every time.
   
   
3. The Afterglow Actually Lasts: When you have sex with someone you really love, the energy generated in that lovemaking carries over into your whole day, and more. Every touch is a beautiful, warm, sexy reminder. When you create space for it, sex and intimacy are an amazing, spiritual experience that continue outside the bedroom.
   
   
   1. It's Concentrated — If You Concentrate: When I was dating, every woman was fair game. I also spent time going to strip clubs and watching porn on the Internet — or even just musing about beautiful models or actresses. Frankly, I've done the same thing in committed relationships — and I fully attribute that behavior to perhaps the #1 reason those relationships failed. (How could any real woman measure up to those airbrushed fantasies?) Now that I have a spiritual practice of focusing all my sexual and attraction energy on Jo, she becomes an almost mythical creature to me. It's amazing how much sexier and more beautiful she becomes the more she ages. Now, every time I touch her it's a turn-on. Pouring all of my sexual energy in that one direction (her) heightens it, magnifies it, and deepens it in such powerful and pleasurable ways. 
      
      
   2. It's Dependable — If You Make It So: If you're both committed to a healthy sex life, then you make time for it — even with two jobs and small children. I invited one busy couple I worked with, who was having sex about twice a year, to schedule a time they would do it every week, without fail. The guy (the one who'd been complaining about the lack of sex) worried that it wouldn't be "spontaneous." But they gave it a whirl and were so successful, I decided to take my own advice. It turns out that scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex! Since you know it's coming, you start getting excited at any point without fear of disappointment. I might lay in bed for an hour waiting for Jo, just to enjoy the anticipation. It also takes the terror of being turned down off the table.